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Advice on Guys: 5 Critical Relationship Tips
When I was 16, I was already wishing I had a manual on relationships and dating…
I’ll bet you felt the same, huh?
Life would be so much easier if you had a simple “owner’s manual for men,” right?
Well, I’m going to give you a few pages of that owner’s manual here today, some powerful advice on guys that any woman can put to use right NOW.
And this isn’t that “magazine rack” trash you see at the grocery store checkout. This is the juicy fun stuff!
Just a side note that a good friend of mine sent me a story today about a cult in New York that brands – yes, brands with a hot piece of metal! – their members. And they also believe aliens are in control of your love life.
When you hear stuff like that, you have to realize that people are desperate out there. Desperate for answers… desperate for a feeling of control over their lives.
And THAT is what keeps me doing this dating and relationship advice gig – 16 years later…!
Now, let’s get started with:
Advice On Guys – Tip #1: Don’t Listen To Guys!
Look, the one thing that might tempt you is to ask a guy why he does the stuff he does. It might be SUPER tempting.
But don’t do it. (And yes, I tell guys not to listen to women!)
The reason is fairly simple: We think we’re rational creatures making decisions from our “logical brains” – but we’re not doing that at all.
We all make decisions from our EMOTIONS first. Then we back them up with logic to make them sound good.
Don’t believe me?
Ask a guy why he bought his current car. Go ahead.
You’ll hear reasons like:
Ratings and reviews
Storage/ipod connection/seat warmers… whatever
What he won’t tell you is that he was SOLD that car by someone at the dealership. He probably didn’t even want that make or model at first, but then he wound up paying $10,000 more than he planned because he liked the status and prestige of owning it.
THAT is what the salesman appealed to…
And the possibility that women would find it hot.
Emotions FIRST, logic second.
So when you ask a guy why he pulled away from a woman, he’ll tell you all kinds of things. But the one reason that you probably won’t hear is that he just felt an emotional repulsion that he HAD to obey.
No guy wants to admit that he doesn’t know why he did what he did.
Most women don’t want to, either!
So we invent convoluted stories about why we did this or that. The scientific term for this is CONFABULATION.
When it comes to understanding why someone did what they did, sometimes you can’t ask that person. But what you’ll get is just more confusion. They don’t really know!
Which makes things HUGELY frustrating when you’re trying to understand men.
Don’t worry… I’ll clear up some of this for you.
On to the next:
Advice On Guys – Tip #2: Wait 24 Hours…
This is one rule of dating that women everywhere need to take to heart.
Sometimes it’s easy to let a man – YOUR man – really get under your skin. For example, he might not have responded to your 8:30 AM text yet… and it’s nearly lunchtime!
Is he cheating?
Is he out with his friends?
Is he …
STOP! Stop right there.
Before you can make ANY assumptions about what’s going on, you need to obey my 24 Hour Rule:
The 24 Hour Rule: If he’s broken his routine – for any reason – you must wait 24 hours before you take any action.
The reason for this is pretty simple: There will be times when he gets distracted by life, and doesn’t do what you expect him to do. When he does disappear or act weirdly, you can’t jump to conclusions about the reasons why.
Because if you do suddenly panic and leave 10 messages on his voicemail (watch the movie “Swingers” for this… it’s priceless), he’s going to think you’re a lunatic.
The 24 hour rule ensures you don’t make this mistake and tarnish your relationship with a gallon size jug of cRaZy.
Wait, and see. Chances are, his life just experienced a slight hiccup. And you don’t want to misunderstand and accidentally push him away.
Advice On Guys – Tip #3: He’s Not A Woman…
Okay, I’m going to get a lot of angry emails on this one – but this is really important:
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