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I recently received an email from a coaching client, and she ended it with one simple question:
“What can I do to get a guy to commit? What can I say to him? I want him to appreciate me more – I have this innate desire to be cherished…“
To feel really committed in a relationship requires a woman to feel cherished and valued.
You want to know that a man appreciates you – for who you are, what you do, and what you can be in your relationship.
Well, it’s not like you can just push a button and he will instantly appreciate you –
Wait… can you?
The key is knowing how men think and value you in the relationship. Today, I’m going to give you 5 essential secrets about how to get your man to appreciate you and value you.
First, you need to know what will make a man DEpreciate you and lose his feelings of value for you:
How To Lose His Respect – 1: Going to him with drama…
It’s not that men don’t enjoy a little gossip from time to time – heck, I still do.
However, you need to severely rein in how much of it you bring to your man. He will grow tired of it quickly.
Men have a need to move forward to solutions to these kinds of problems after a while, and recycling issues with friends and family will wear thin.
Show him you’ve got solutions for your social situations, and balance this stuff with some higher thinking.
And share it with him – he’ll appreciate it. And Cherish you.
How To Lose His Respect – 2: Agreeing with him too much…
He doesn’t want to argue with you, but he wants to know that you’ve got your own opinions. He wants to hear interesting things come from your mouth – including observations, ideas, and plans. He needs to know you’re an independent thinker.
Really, being too much of a YES-person in general will make a man lose his adoring feelings.
I’m not saying you need to start being DISagreeable… that’s just as much a turn-off. But some women, who realize that they might not care about the details of what they do, tend to be more easygoing about what she does and when.
In fact, I’ve heard quite a few women say: “I don’t care what we do, it will be fun to just be out having fun.”
Which is fine – to a point.
Men bond by doing things WITH a woman (and with their male friends.) So he will occasionally want to have ACTIVITIES to do with you. And it means a lot when a woman has an idea in mind.
So don’t be afraid to get specific with him in some way.
Make your desires known.
If you don’t have a preference, express one anyway. It makes you feel like more of a whole, separate entity to us, which increases our respect for you.
How To Lose His Respect – 3: Passive Aggressive Tactics…
If you’re not familiar with this form of psychological manipulation – GOOD!
But you should know it when you see it. Like when a woman says:
“Oh sure, you can go hang out with your friends Thursday. That’s cool. I mean, we haven’t seen each other since last week. No, I’ll just wait at home. I’m sure I’ll find something to do with my time. (sigh)”
You hear what’s going on there, right? She’s not saying what she REALLY wants.
Guys HATE this tactic. It’s manipulative and it feels really gross. (Literally, it feels like being rolled in oil and dirt, if you want to be vivid.)
Avoid this at all costs!
Okay, now let’s turn this around and get positive – Let’s talk about the 5 secret ways you can make your man appreciate and value you more…
Make Your Man Appreciate You – Secret #1: Expect Him To Rise…
People will generally meet your level of expectation for them.
Of course, the real problem is …
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