Okay, I’ve got some great trash for today…
The first thing I’m pulling out of the dumpster is about –
You may or may not know this but love quotes are a big thing on the internet. You’ll see them in everyone’s Instagrams, snapchats, you-name-it.
Why is this such a big deal to women?
Well you probably already know why. I know, too.
It’s inspiring for a lot of women to hear the idealistic view of love and relationships.
They keep your hopes alive…
They share wisdom…
They affirm your heart and empower you…
They make you feel good!
But I also have to point out that some of these are just pure rubbish.
Yeah – TRASH.
“Whoah, Carlos – now you’ve gone TOO far!”
Oh hang on to your bippies, dear reader…
I’m not going aggro on love quotes in general, but just some of the really dumb ones that make me cringe.
Like this one:
I am permanently in love with you; always and forever…
Is it sweet? Sure.
Is it something you’d like to hear from your man? Yeah, definitely.
Does it often lead you into the false belief that romantic love can “never end”? Yep. And THAT is what’s dangerous about this type of love quote.
I get that we all want to believe in “forever love.” Part of the human condition is to seek a stable, forgiving, always-there feeling of love that reassures us about our existence here in this world.
But real human love is very flawed, and often takes us in unhealthy directions if we keep following it well past its limits.
Look, some guys turn out to be real jerks. You get into a relationship, and then you see some really serious flaws.
We need to look closely at our never-ending, never complete sense of self that craves this “guaranteed love.”
Why do we need that? COMMENT BELOW….
Here’s another love quote:
Good ol’ Marilyn
“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”
You might recognize that one as being from Marilyn Monroe. And it’s often quoted on T-shirts as just the last line:
“if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”
I gotta say that if you take it out of context, it does change the feel of the quote, yeah?
The problem I have with this one is that it tries to make the case that it’s okay to be impatient, selfish, and out of control. “Just deal with it, honey!”
Let me just say that you can adopt a “he better just deal with it” attitude… but don’t expect him to stick around if someone a bit more low maintenance comes around.
Relationships aren’t based on “taking it” in either direction. We have to rise above ourselves to create the dynamic that is loving and connected.
Yes, you do need tolerance, but not for another persons intolerant behavior.
Okay, so what about those flirty text messages, Carlos?
I’m not going to give you any text messages to use on your man. If I just lost you, then so be it…
I want to trash talk our fixation on texting for a minute –
Well, I really want to talk about it for YOU.
You might not be a woman who relies on texting very much. Or you might not THINK you do. But there’s something very important about why women like to flirt using texts…
It’s like passing a note in class like when you were in 4th grade…
It’s “abstract” (I’ll explain this)
The first one is pretty obvious. We all like that feeling of playing with the energy of flirting – and when you write a note it’s kind of like you’re having a surrogate or have someone else go over and do what you can’t do in person.
Now, it’s also abstract – meaning that you’re not communicating with him directly. You FEEL like you are, but you’re using short phrases and sentences typed in that are read on a tiny screen with emojis.
That’s NOT the same as talking to a person.
In fact, your thoughts – which you hope he’ll understand – are being flavored with your emotions – which you hope he shares.
It’s all about the connection…
Those things are mixed into a short little text to a guy…
How much do you think survives the translation.
ANSWER: Not so much.
And finally – texting is …
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