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5 Signs He’s Seeing Other Women
So I got an email the other day that has me in a spin… let me share her letter with you, then we’ll dig into the juicy parts, okay?
QUESTION FOR CARLOS: Is He Seeing Other Women?
Carlos, I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now, and lately I’ve been wondering about him.
I got home from my yoga class a few nights ago and he was on the computer, but he got off really quickly.
Then, when I asked him what he was doing, he said he was watching YouTube videos…
A few weeks before that, I noticed that he’s been on his cell phone a lot more lately.
He’s still nice to me, and we’re still romantic (in the bedroom) – but things have kind of slowed down.
And he doesn’t talk as much…
So I’m worried he might be seeing other women.
What do you think? Could he be cheating on me?
CARLOS CAVALLO ANSWERS:
Maggie, I can see how you might be confused – and probably very fearful at the moment.
The prospect of having your boyfriend possibly straying from your relationship is one that must weigh heavily on you. Especially when you look at the clues that are being left behind.
The real confusing and heartbreaking part is when he says he isn’t seeing anyone else – but you suspect the opposite may be true. You flip-flop back and forth, starting to doubt your own perception.
After all, you don’t want to believe he could be leaving you for another woman.
Before I say whether or not he is, I want to show you some of the signs he’s seeing other women. And let’s see how these match up to what you see in your relationship…
Sign #1 He’s seeing other women: He’s getting secret agent on you…
Yup, I hate to start out on this note, but if he’s getting MORE secretive and dismissive about his activities, this is a good indicator that he’s not becoming MORE in love with you.
The natural progress of a loving, deep relationship is that we become more trusting of our partner. We negotiate the challenges and become more trusting of the connection between us.
You’ll see it happen in every good relationship.
Every single one.
And the fact is that most of us experience the opposite in our relationships.
The closeness turns to distance…
The trust turns into suspicion…
The communication turns to silence…
So when you see him starting to act dodgy, not telling you the whole story, or not even being open enough to share it…
You have to know there’s SOMETHING going on. It might not always be infidelity, either.
In fact, if all you’re concerned with is IF he’s seeing someone else – you’re missing the point.
The thing that should weight the heaviest on you is that the little stuff that got you here wasn’t handled when it should have been.
Sign #2 he’s keeping his options open: He’s not changing his social media to include you…
This one is pretty annoying because you almost want to believe him when he tells you WHY he hasn’t changed his status.
– “I just haven’t gotten around to it…”
– “It’s not that important…”
– “I forgot…”
– “What’s the big deal?”
That last one is really dangerous because he’s almost trying to push it off on YOU. That you’re the crazy one for wondering.
If a man is IN a relationship with you, his life is going to reflect it.
If his heart is open and available, he’s going to be pulling you into every area of his life. And that means he’ll want to broadcast to the world that you are his.
If he’s not doing this, it means that you’re either not his one and only, or he’s still not quite sure.
Either way, you have to get back in ACTION.
I’ll talk more about this in a minute…
Sign #3 he’s dating other women: He’s only into the…
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