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How To Stop Him From Stringing You Along

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How To Stop Him From Stringing You Along –
3 Tips to keep him from wasting your time…

The world is full of time wasters.

They clog up our lives like hair at the bottom of the drain.

ESPECIALLY if it’s a guy that’s stringing you along, wasting your love and time on a relationship that’s not fulfilling you – and not leading anywhere…

You gotta know how to stop these guys from plugging up your life! Time to get some Drain-o for the dudes.

Because you need to know whether to give him more time, or to kick him to the curb.

I’m going to warn you that if you’re prone to needing to blame the guy, or shy away from the tough talk, this article isn’t going to kiss your butt. I’m here to give you the straight dope on how to be REALLY happy.

Not “deluded happy.” We have enough people doing that these days.

So let’s put on those Big Girl Shoes and dig into some ways to avoid getting strung along and played by the man in your life.

Most guys aren’t doing this on purpose, by the way. We’re just doing what you’re doing: trying to find someone to love.

But it’s up to you to watch out for yourself, so these tips should keep you safe:

Stop Getting Strung Along – TIP #1: Make A Reality Check

Ask yourself the critical question: Are you REALLY being strung along?

What makes you feel that way?

Is it that he isn’t acting the same as when you two first got together?

Because I’ll have to stop you right there and tell you wake up and grow up, honey. No one acts the same later as they did at the start. Oh yeah – even you. 

The best way to check in on this is to really check your gut as I ask this next question:

Do you feel that there’s anything actually wrong with your connection?

And is there a possibility that this is a common feeling you get at this point in ALL your relationships? At about the same time? (More on this in a second…)

A lot of people go their whole lives without really questioning the nature of their reality. Especially when it comes to relationships.

Back when I was still pretty amateurish about dating, a friend of mine interrupted me to tell me something I’ve never forgotten:

What’s the one thing in common to all your problems?
I thought about that for a while… and without waiting for my answer, she said:

YOU!

YOU are the one thing that is always there in all your problems.

And that’s when it really clicked for me…

That it wasn’t every one of my partners that was wrong or bad.

And it wasn’t me, either. I was just the common element to all of them. I was the hub – the center – of all my problems.

If I wanted them to change, I had to change ME. Not them.

So really take a few seconds and think that one through. Make sure you have HARD DATA that says “Yup, he’s definitely putting me on the back burner.”

Do you have evidence that leads you to believe that you aren’t as important to him as you’d like to be? That feelings have changed between you?

Stop Getting Strung Along – TIP #2: Check Your Stuff…

Ready for another serious question?

Ask yourself this:

Do you tend to make snap decisions when your insecurities rise up?
Or do you have a healthy level of self-awareness?

Don’t be too quick to assume the latter. You’d be surprised how many women rush to conclusions when she gets a bit rattled in her relationship.

Also ask yourself:

Do you settle up front for less than you know you’ll want later? 
A lot of women I know will “date hard” for a month or two… then she will get really frustrated and angry.

Then, after another couple weeks of “angry dating,” she will get sad and lonely about it all. You can practically hear her standards starting to drop.

Eventually, she just takes some guy who is “good enough.” He’s usually not a strong willed man, and his lack of masculine edge has already doomed the relationship before it gets started.

And then what happens is that she’s unhappy, dissatisfied, and generally underwhelmed. She might try a “salvage operation” where she tries to fix or change him. (NEVER WORKS!)

And when it doesn’t work, she turns on the complaint engine – instead of dropping him and moving on.

There simply aren’t enough compatible guys for you to …

Watch the video for the rest!

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Carlos Cavallo
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How To Stop Him From Stringing You Along
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