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7 Tips For How To Get Your Man Back After You’ve Messed Up…
Maybe you’ve broken up, maybe you haven’t. You goofed, and now you’re on the outs. And if you want to know how to get your man back after you’ve messed up, you’ve come to the right place.
Hey, we all mess up from time to time. It happens, and you wonder if you can ever recover.
After all, there are a ton of ways you might accidentally push a guy away, and then realize what you’ve done. You start the mad scramble to get him back into your life.
Well, today we’re going to talk about some tips you can use to get your man back…
How To Get Your Man Back After You’ve Messed Up – TIP 1: Relax, don’t do it…
Just like Frankie Goes To Hollywood says… just relax. And don’t do it.
By “it” we mean: Don’t panic and don’t lose your cool.
The first rule of fight club… I mean, the first rule of breakup club is that you don’t panic and don’t react from your panic. That’s one of the most common mistakes women make after they mess up is that they think they now have to scramble to fix it. In fact, most of the time you don’t need to do much at all.
Just wait it out.
“The more you try to save face, the more insecure you often look…” – Carlos
Think about the people you’ve known who don’t seem to care much about what other people think of them. They make huge blunders, but everyone loves them even more for it.
How do they do it?
They simply don’t look like they care one bit. They shrug it off and keep plowing forward.
Learn a thing or two from their approach and just let it go and move on.
Get Him Back After You’ve Messed Up – TIP 2: Give him the Astronaut Treatment…
The “astronaut” treatment is when you give him SPACE – and plenty of it!
I’m not just trying to be cheeky here. When you give a man space, you’re showing trust in him and your relationship. When you bulldoze right back in trying to “fix” everything, you’ll usually just make things worse.
A guy will look at you and decide in seconds whether or not you’re needy based on how quickly you backpedal and try to save face. For some guys, they immediately sort you into the bin labeled “side girlfriend.” As in, NOT his primary girlfriend.
Men respect women who stick to their guns, or at least don’t run around in fear of loss. Give him space to decompress from his own emotional state, and time for him to get back to missing you.
Ultimately, that’s the goal for your man – to get him to the point where he misses you when he’s not with you.
Chances are your mistake wasn’t all that bad. And just as likely is that he doesn’t even remember what happened all that well.
In the absence of a clear memory of the situation, he’ll probably just forgive you and move on – in his own time.
So give him space to relax in.
When he feels that you’re going to rush right in to always try and fix things, you’re training him to be passive in your relationship.
How To Get Your Guy Back – TIP 3: Titrate…!
One of the things that guys run away from is a huge display of emotion that he wasn’t prepared for. You may have had this happen to you, in fact.
Men are very easily FLOODED by emotions.
Emotional flooding is what happens when the amount of emotional interaction (usually conversation) is more than he can contend with. He feels a giant wave of emotion (usually any emotion that is not joy or happiness) and he either loses his cool, or shuts down completely.
Women experience this emotional flooding too when they feel a whirlpool of emotion suddenly pull them into feelings they weren’t prepared for.
The answer to this – for you, anyway – is to…
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