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We’re all looking for “The One” that we hope is out there for us. We hope that person is out there – and if the guy you’re with is him. And that’s what we’re going to cover here as I answer that question: Is he the one for you?
You might have even found yourself wondering this about the guy you’re with – or maybe even ALL the guys you’ve dated in the past. The way most of us find out is if we break up, then we know they’re NOT “The One.”
And let’s face it, we often get together with someone for the wrong reasons – or at the wrong time.
Of course, we can’t possibly know if a person was “destined” to be with us until we’re with them. But there are signs you can look for that will show you if you’ve got someone that is worth sticking around for.
Because you don’t want to waste your time with the WRONG guy. And that’s what I’m here to do – save you from making the wrong decisions.
So how would you know if he’s the right guy for you? Let’s go through the signs…
Secret Sign 1: He’s “The One” If You Feel THE PULL…
The Pull is that inevitable attraction we feel for someone.
But you have to also be careful – many people let physical / sexual attraction replace their common sense in the process.
The human body (and brain) is designed to hypnotize you into taking the first guy that really starts your engine. Your brain gets flooded with a half-dozen love hormones that you simply can’t resist.
Which is why you have to pay attention at the start so that you don’t get pulled into orbit around the wrong guy.
There are two kinds of attraction you MUST feel if he’s going to be The One:
Physical/Sexual – This is the hardcore “lust” stuff – where you two just can’t keep your hands off each other…
Mental/Emotional – This is where you’re attracted to the IDEA of him as well. It’s a different kind of attraction that is harder to notice…
And it’s that second one – the mental/emotional attraction – that many people completely ignore because they’re getting all wild-monkey-love with their new lover.
There was a time when you could just go with the sexual attraction, but now we’re evolving to a place where we don’t need to make our mating decisions based on our crazed hormones.
So watch to see if you’re really feeling infatuation with him – or you’re really drawn to his personality. Chemistry IS important – but so is his soul.
Which actually brings us to the next Secret Sign he is THE ONE for you:
Secret Sign 2: He’s Got The GOODS…
Before I started coaching women on how to be more successful with men and relationships, I started out in the world of men’s dating advice. I spent about 8 years coaching men on the qualities that women look for in men.
Well … at least the qualities women SHOULD look for in men. You want to spot any of his faults, but also know his strengths.
So let me share a few of the essential character qualities you want to look for. (And in case you’re wondering, these are the same ones I coach my own son on every day. So you can be sure they are for real!)
Character Quality 1: Honesty.
Yes, it goes without saying that you can’t have a strong relationship where there is no honesty. In fact, I usually leave “Trust” out as a quality, because if you have the honesty, the trust comes naturally.
Your man has to stick to the truth-telling side if you’re going to have a lasting, loving relationship with him. If you detect that he’s playing loose with the facts to protect himself, or cover up his problems, you have to nip that in the bud, as they say.
Character Quality 2: Communication.
Again, he’s got to be a reasonably well-intentioned communicator. Guys will fumble and fall when it comes to communicating their feelings and needs, but they can be trained!
Communication ties in directly with your method of handling conflict in your relationship. If your styles do not match (i.e., you get loud and emotional, and then he goes silent) you will find that you have a long challenging road ahead of you.
He doesn’t have to be great at communication, but he does have to show…
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